Here’s something I rewrote based on the book entitled “The Four Agreements” and its philosophy, and applied then it to drumming just for the fun of it.
I recently picked up “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz, and I was genuinely struck by its depth and insight. The ideas presented in the book resonated with me on a personal level, igniting a spark of inspiration.
As I reflected on its teachings, I found myself drawing parallels to my passion for drumming. Just as the agreements encourage personal growth and authentic living, I realized that drumming also embodies similar principles of discipline, expression, and connection. The rhythm of the drums mirrors the importance of staying true to oneself and continuing to strive for improvement, both in music and in life.
The transformative principles found in the book offer profound insights which can be applied to making music, particularly in the compelling world of hand drumming. Use them all, or a little of whatever resonates with you!
As they say in Thailand, “arai gor dai” (translation: up to you)! Please note that I use the words musician, art, and drumming as having the same meaning because, to me, they are all the same. Music is drumming, and drumming is music. Art is drumming, and drumming is an art form.
This art form, with its rich history, cultural background, in-depth and deep compositions, and expressive potential, benefits greatly from a mindful approach that emphasizes communication, awareness, and intent. By integrating any or all of these agreements into your drumming practice, you not only cultivate your technical skills but also nurture your emotional and spiritual connection to music.
You don’t have to do it all. Try one, perhaps, if it seems overwhelming.
The journey of a musician is as much about the rhythms we create and learn as it is about the relationships we build with ourselves and others in the community. Let’s explore how applying these agreements can enhance your drumming experience and foster a deeper appreciation for the art of music-making.
The Four Agreements for Hand Drumming and Music Making
- Be Impeccable with Your Word
When you’re drumming, speak through the drum with integrity in your playing. Let the rhythm you create, the part you play, and the groove you invoke or recite resonate with truth and love. Each strike of the drum should reflect your genuine intentions, so let the power of music guide your expression authentically. Be supportive and show that support by playing parts, and not by wandering off or babbling endlessly.
If you’re a teacher, communicate clearly, honestly, and patiently. Don’t hold back or worry about giving away too much information. Let go of expectations from your student(s) and stop worrying about being thanked, appreciated, or recognized, now or in the future. Such recognition might not happen. You have to teach from a place of love and giving freely.
If you’re a student, ask questions at appropriate times. Show respect and give thanks. Moreover, be mindful of the words you use when describing your own playing. Avoid negative self-talk, as this can undermine your confidence. Instead, affirm your strengths and acknowledge your areas for growth with compassion.
- Don’t Take Anything Personally
Remember, the sounds you hear and the criticisms you face are more about the other person’s journey than about your own. A teacher of mine used to say, “Happiness is knowing what other people say or do is a reflection on them, not you.” Simply put, don’t let other people’s opinions bother you in any way, shape, or form. It’s like a mantra we have to repeat because we can all get too stuck on the opinions of others.
When someone comments on your drumming or musical choices, it’s a reflection of their own experiences. By letting go of their opinions, you free yourself to fully enjoy the music you make.
If someone offers helpful suggestions, don’t reject them from an egotistical standpoint. Be aware of your ego’s involvement and don’t let it run or ruin your experience. Recognize that constructive feedback is a tool for growth, not a personal attack. This perspective allows you to approach both praise and criticism with an open mind, further enriching your musical development.
We have to learn to decipher what is useful, positive, and helpful criticism from negative criticism.
- Don’t Make Assumptions
Embrace the courage to ask questions about techniques, styles, rhythms, patterns, and expressions. If you’re curious about another musician’s approach or your own desires in music, speak up! Clear communication with fellow drummers and musicians is essential; it helps everyone grow and connect on a deeper level.
Share your truth. Even though someone may not want to hear it, it may be helpful for them to hear it.
Just because you feel something should go a certain way or be a certain way does not mean the other person feels that way too. Also, take the time to express your expectations and plans to your fellow musicians. Miscommunication can lead to misunderstandings that detract from the collective experience of making music together.
- Always Do Your Best
Expect the best from yourself, but don’t be disappointed if you or others don’t live up to your expectations. Know you did your best. Give your all in every rhythm, every practice session, jam, class, and every performance. “Your all” can mean simply staying present. It does not mean playing to the point of exhaustion. Remember, you’re already enough just as you are—there’s no need to pretend or try to be someone else.
Don’t be lazy. Keep pushing yourself to learn new rhythms, study different styles, and explore your creativity. Just don’t expect everyone else to share your level of dedication. Focus on your own journey in music. Understand that your best may vary from day to day, and that’s perfectly acceptable. Celebrate your achievements and progress, no matter how small, and recognize that every step you take contributes to your overall growth as a musician.
By committing to these agreements, you create a harmonious atmosphere that not only enriches your own drumming practice but also positively impacts those around you. The vibrancy of music lies in its ability to connect us—both to our inner selves and to each other. As you cultivate this mindful approach to your craft, you’ll likely discover deeper layers of joy, collaboration, and fulfillment within your musical journey. Remember, music is not simply about the notes we play; it’s about the relationships we form and the stories we tell through our rhythms. Let these principles guide you as you embark on your drumming adventure, nurturing both your individual expression and your connections with fellow musicians, and ultimately allowing the love and joy of music to resonate in every beat you create!